Reading between the Lines by Cheryl Lewis
Reading through the personal ads can be a skill, an
art in its own. You may find that skimming through the
personal ads has become your latest habit, searching
for the person that meets your profile needs and desires
but without success. Have you been looking for love
but in the wrong profiles, or are you searching for
more that is not written in the lines of a personal
ad? If you read more into a personal ad than what is
actually written in the profile and in the pages of
the personal classifieds, you may find yourself conversing
or dating a person that does not have the same personal
dating ideas as you or the same objective in a relationship
which puts you back at the beginning of the process
again.
You already know that the listings in the personal
section are from people just like you, people who want
to meet someone special to fit into their life so starting
with the personal ads is a great way to meet someone.
However, maybe you are reading the profile of someone
wanting to find just a friend, or maybe the profiles
you are reading is someone that is also hinting towards
a search for love in a relationship. You need to be
a distinctive reader.
The odds are in your favor when searching the personal
ads for in finding a companion or lover. You already
know that if the profiles you are reading are not seeking
some type of friendship or relationship, they would
not have created a profile for others to review. However,
the steps in deciding who you will make contact with
can be one of the most difficult in your search.
Your journey reading the personal classified section
will require the need to look within yourself discovering
what you type of relationship you are truly in search
of. Are you searching for a friend, for a lover, or
are you searching for a true lifetime commitment? Whatever
category you place yourself in, choose the replies and
profiles that meet your standards in your search for
a relationship helping you narrow your search, which
will make the personals much easier to sort through.
If you would sit in front of your computer and continue
reading all of the personal ads presented, you may find
yourself overwhelmed with information and choices to
be made. Narrowing your criteria and the idea of what
type of relationship you are searching for creates the
best results.
If you are searching for a friend or companion only
through the personal ads, start with profiles that state
this specifically in their profile, which you will find
many. In discussing profiles of those who are not looking
for a serious relationship, you may find the following
phrases used: ‘want to have a good time’,’
not looking for a relationship’ and ‘not
willing to give my heart away’, ‘just want
to spend some time with you’ or ‘seeking
another with a great listening ear’. There are
various words used expressing friendship, companionship
and those just looking to date. Use these expressions
and words to help you sort through the personal ads
narrowing your decision among the many people listed.
Profiles of people searching for friendship use words
that stick out like: ‘looking for fun’,
‘friendship’, ‘no commitments’,
‘companion wanted’, ‘only looking
for a good time’, ‘need help in building
my confidence’, ‘I want to roller blade
in the park all day’, finding words that express
fun and friendship stating no commitments or relationship
will help you sort through the profiles you are reading.
Are you in search of that someone special to be more
than just friends are? Learn to read more into the written
words. Find descriptions such as ‘looking for
love’, ‘searching for that someone special’,
‘more than friends’, ‘quiet and cozy’,
‘easy going and lovable’, ‘special
times’, ‘treasured moments’, and words
similar to ‘lovable’.
So what about your profile, read over the words again.
Does the profile really express your thoughts about
a relationship, what type of relationship you are seeking
and whom you are expecting to meet using the personal
classifieds? Deciding what type of person you are searching
for, what qualities you desire, and how far you want
the relationship to mature are steps in realizing you
are taking the right direction for meeting that someone
special through the classifieds. Clarify your words,
express your real thoughts and ideas about who you are
seeking clearly which will aid those that are reading
your profile connect easily with you.
Matching your personality and the relationship you
are seeking with the personal profile or description
of another person that is seeking similar relationships
can be tough but using your feelings of what you want
from a relationship as a basis when reading and sorting
through the personals is a great beginning.
Cheryl Lewis, freelance writer, married and mother of
three. Based in the Mountains of PA
Cheryl writes for DrDating – a web site for anyone
looking for love online. We have hundreds of articles,
E-Books and links to some great dating and love sites
all over the world. DrDating also offers reviews of
some of the most popular dating sites and books.
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