Do You Appear Desperate?
How to be more successful at the dating game.

Here is a truth, most people come across as though they are too available and hence they appear too desperate. Think about all the things you really, really want. Things like new clothes, a BIG TV, maybe a brand new car. The fact is, the things we most want or desire in life are often the least accessible. It appears to be a part of our personality that we continually desire what we don’t have.

Now this is a good thing. Because if it wasn’t so we would not have such good inventions as the light bulb or the plane. But what does this have to do with Dating? Well, when you date you need to create the desire or want but then you need to stop making yourself so available. You know, stop sitting at home waiting for the phone to ring or in this day, when the mobile rings – be busy. Answer it, but when the other person suggests to do something be busy. Why? Because for the reasons I have just said. Create the need and then remove it and the desire factor goes through the roof.

The hard thing about doing this is meeting that perfect balance. When we meet someone we hate playing games as I just want to be with them. And for most people that is probably 24hrs a day. But even if you had to spend all your time with your best friend you would get pretty bored with them quick. And by spending so much time with them you take away that desire you created when you first met.

Now this isn’t just with your partner. You may find you also get bored with them quickly also. That is unless they have a life and are out doing other things.

So what do you need to do to stop appearing so desperate? Well this was the million dollar question I had for myself a few years ago. And much to my delight I discovered a book that gave me an insight that changed my life. I will tell you this insight in a moment, but you can find this book at www.meetwomen.com.au.

Now what was that insight?

Get the women chasing you!

So how do you go about that? I have been told that I am a pretty attractive guy and I was always meeting the girls. I could always get a date and even had them coming up to me in the clubs and starting to talk with me. So this had me pretty curious and I was starting to think that there was something wrong with me. And then I said “stuff it, I am not going to chase women anymore!”

KABANG – it happened. All of a sudden I had them calling me. To do this, I would get there number or arrange the first date. Then I would stop calling. Yeh, I would return their call but depending on the message they left, I might make them wait for 2 days. And depending on what I was being invited to I would normally arrange to do it on another day.

What do I mean by this? If they were inviting me to a party, obviously I can’t change the date of that so I would go with them. That is if I wasn’t doing something with another women. But if they wanted to go to the movies on Thursday night I would say that I was busy, but how about Friday night. They may ask what I was doing on Thursday night, but I would not tell them. I would say something smart like “It is top secret and I will have to kill you if I tell you.” They pretty soon get the answer that you are not going to tell them and this creates mystery, and most women love mystery.

So when you meet someone you like, by all means get started down the dating path but ensure that you keep to your regular schedule and don't be available every day. If you are free both days of the weekend, one is for you, one is for your date at first. If you are free Tuesday and Thursday for dinner, let them know which is better for you. If they suggest Tuesday, you suggest Thursday. Don't call so frequently (which is extremely hard to do) and don't always answer your phone (yes really) and make sure that you can bring plenty of separate activity information back to your date when you do meet up.

For all the type you are away from each other, your dates will become even better. If you are having any doubts about what I am saying above I challenge you to try it. My motto is ‘If something isn’t working, try something new.’ If you follow what I am saying above I am certain you will start to have success. And remember, sometimes it just isn’t meant to be but it always make you feel better if you decide this.

About the Author:
This article was written by Justin Bryce (Australia’s top dating expert). If you would like to discover how to successfully meet, date, attract, and become intimate with women, please visit his website at: www.meetwomen.com.au

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